Research on what makes a marriage work shows that people in a good marriage have completed these psychological "tasks": 關(guān)于“是什么使婚姻美滿”的研究表明，那些擁有幸?；橐龅娜藗兺呀?jīng)完成了這些心理“任務(wù)”。
1 Separate emotionally from the family you grew up in; not to the point of estrangement, but enough so that your identity is separate from that of your parents and siblings.在感情上與你成長(zhǎng)的家庭分開(kāi)；不要到產(chǎn)生隔閡的地步，但要足以使你的身份獨(dú)立于你的父母和兄弟姐妹。
2 Build togetherness based on a shared intimacy and identity, while at the same time set boundaries to protect each partner's autonomy.在相互的親昵和一致的基礎(chǔ)上建立歸屬感，但同時(shí)也要設(shè)定一些界限來(lái)保障每一個(gè)成員的自主權(quán)。
3 Establish a rich and pleasurable sexual relationship and protect it from the intrusions of the workplace and family obligations.建立一種豐富而又愉快的性關(guān)系，并保護(hù)其免受繁雜工作和家庭義務(wù)的干擾。
4 For couples with children, embrace the daunting roles of parenthood and absorb the impact of a baby's entrance into the marriage. Learn to continue the work of protecting the privacy of you and your spouse as a couple.對(duì)于有孩子的夫妻，坦然地接受父母這樣的嚴(yán)峻角色，消化掉因?qū)殞毜某霈F(xiàn)而對(duì)婚姻生活造成的影響。夫妻雙方還要學(xué)會(huì)繼續(xù)保護(hù)自己和配偶的隱私。
5 Confront and master the inevitable crises of life.共同面對(duì)和掌控生活中不可避免的危機(jī)。
6 Maintain the strength of the marital bond in the face of adversity. The marriage should be a safe haven in which partners are able to express their differences, anger and conflict.在面對(duì)逆境時(shí)保持婚姻關(guān)系的穩(wěn)定?；橐鰬?yīng)當(dāng)是一個(gè)安全的港灣，在這里夫妻之間可以表達(dá)他們的不同觀點(diǎn)、忿怒和沖突。
7 Use humor and laughter to keep things in perspective and to avoid boredom and isolation.通過(guò)幽默和笑聲來(lái)對(duì)待事情，避免厭倦和孤立。
8 Nurture and comfort each other, satisfying each partner's needs for dependency and offering continuing encouragement and support.扶持和安慰彼此，滿足彼此依戀的需求，并提供持續(xù)性的鼓勵(lì)和支持。
9 Keep alive the early romantic, idealized images of falling in love, while facing the sober realities of the changes wrought by time.隨著時(shí)間的流逝，即使面對(duì)理性的現(xiàn)實(shí)，也要保持年輕時(shí)候一顆浪漫的心和墜入愛(ài)河時(shí)美好的憧憬。
（來(lái)源：網(wǎng)絡(luò) 英語(yǔ)點(diǎn)津Jennifer編輯）
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