每個(gè)人都應(yīng)該找到一種激勵(lì)自己的方式。只有這樣,才能明白因何而活,緣何傷感,亦幸福。
來自“幸福計(jì)劃”的格雷琴·魯賓為我出了個(gè)好主意:每天寫下一句話。我想這樣一種方式能幫助大家更好地了解自己,了解自己的工作,體會(huì)其中的樂趣。我自己通常會(huì)寫上兩句話,而不僅僅是一句。因?yàn)橐环矫嫖蚁矚g記下一天都做了什么,另一方面記下我當(dāng)時(shí)的感受。
一會(huì)兒也寫下你自己的第一條一句話總結(jié)吧。你可以寫你喜歡的,你討厭的或者讓你覺得煩得要死的東西。無論是什么,你都要回過頭來正視它們,了解它們是怎樣讓你分心,甚至讓你暴跳如雷的。這樣的總結(jié)能幫助你不再有那些負(fù)面的情緒。
You must find a way to do what excites you. That means understanding what makes you feel engaged, upset and happy.
Gretchen Rubin of the Happiness Project gave me the idea of keeping a one sentence journal. I think this habit will help you understand more about who you are and what you need to be happy within your business.
I usually write two sentences instead of just one because I like to write about what happened in my day and how I felt about it. I focus on the most emotionally powerful event. This helps me stay focused and not let the journal get too jumbled. Here are some of my entries:
- 12-3-09 Thursday
- I berated myself with negative thoughts because I forgot to send out an email. I wished I had a cold so I could use it as an excuse not to work. (This was eyes opening(大開眼界). I couldn't believe I wished illness on myself. It was at this point that I began to really develop a more positive mindset.)
- 1-15-10 Friday
- I spilled tea all over my keyboard, reminding me to laugh at myself. At first I felt stupid, but then I smiled and actually enjoyed the clean up because I made a song out of it. (When I was finally able to stop taking myself so seriously and laugh at my mistakes that's when my career happiness finally blossomed.)
- 3-16-10 Tuesday
- I stared at my apple for 10 seconds to calm myself down after a client emailed me back listing all my supposed faults. The apple reminded me of a cool Monet painting. This self calming method helped me regain control of my emotions and realize the value in the email. (It's amazing how many tools I've learned to bring back emotional balance when I need it the most.) Take a moment to write down your first entry in your one sentence journal.
You can write about something that you loved, hated or something that bored you to death. Whatever it is, you'll be able to look back and notice what things irked you or lit a fire underneath your butt. This journal will help you keep things in perspective.
Make it easy.
The idea is to make this habit so simple that you want to do it every day. That's why I suggest only one sentence a day. We resist tasks that feel like work, but feel pulled to work that is easy and fun. You need to make this daily reflection a chance to uncover your superpowers and leverage them to do more great work.
So at the end of each work day, write down one experience, thought, or feeling that you had. That's it. I also like to summarize my week and my month, but that's just because I'm a bit of an over reflector. Try this one sentence journal for thirty days and see how it works for you. I don't think you'll be able to stop. If you notice at the end of 30 days that all you do is complain then it's time to drop this silly idea.
Now if you notice that you are happy, more productive, and more in tuned with your emotions then don't stop.
Keep on watching your thoughts, feelings, and actions so you can use them to improve your amazingness.
Hey, if you aren't learning anything new about yourself then it's time to push yourself outside of your comfort zone(舒適區(qū)) and dig a little deeper. Because the deeper you dig the more you uncover that resistance and happiness and when you know what's working well you can keep doing more of this great stuff.
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(來源:譯言網(wǎng) 編輯:Julie)