20多歲的年輕人，難免對漫漫人生感到迷茫，渴望得到來自前輩的指引，不妨來聽聽加拿大多倫多大學(xué)心理學(xué)教授喬丹·彼得森（Jordan Peterson）的建議。

彼得森教授首先提到，年輕人不要害怕承擔(dān)責(zé)任：

Don't be afraid of taking on responsibility. It's where you find what sustains in your life. You can take on too much responsibility; you have to be cautious in that regard. But that's a less common problem than not taking on enough. A lot of the things that people regard as traps are actually the means to their life.
不要害怕承擔(dān)責(zé)任，這是你維系生命的所在。你可能會承擔(dān)過多的責(zé)任，在這方面你必須謹(jǐn)慎。但比起沒有承擔(dān)足夠責(zé)任來說，這是個(gè)小問題。很多人們視作陷阱的東西，實(shí)際上是他們賴以生活的方式。

很多年輕人不愿意輕易承諾一段感情，覺得自己有更重要的事情要做。但彼得森教授認(rèn)為，事實(shí)上，為愛付出承諾是很有價(jià)值的一件事，甚至比大多數(shù)事情都更重要。

You know often young people are afraid of commitment, for example, in the context of a romantic relationship. And because they feel that that's going to interfere with their pursuit of something more valuable.
年輕人經(jīng)常害怕做出承諾，例如在一段戀愛關(guān)系中。因?yàn)樗麄冇X得這種承諾會妨礙他們追求一些更有價(jià)值的東西。

That's just not the case. You're not going to find something more valuable in your life than a committed relationship with someone you love that sustains itself across time.
但事實(shí)不是那樣的。你在人生中未必會找到比和你愛的人共同奔赴一段感情更有價(jià)值的事。這種關(guān)系能跨越時(shí)間的限制。

根據(jù)心理學(xué)家埃里克森（Erik Homburger Erikson）的人格發(fā)展階段理論（Erikson's stages of psychosocial development），20多歲的年輕人正處于成年早期（Early adulthood）。

在這個(gè)階段中，年輕人經(jīng)過了青春期的身份認(rèn)同，開始準(zhǔn)備與他人建立親密關(guān)系：

Once people have established their identities, they are ready to make long-term commitments to others. They become capable of forming intimate, reciprocal relationships (e.g. through close friendships or marriage) and willingly make the sacrifices and compromises that such relationships require.
一旦人們確立了身份認(rèn)同，他們就做好了對他人付出長期承諾的準(zhǔn)備了。他們現(xiàn)在有能力形成親密的、互相回應(yīng)的關(guān)系（例如親密的友誼或婚姻），并愿意為這種關(guān)系作出必要的犧牲和妥協(xié)。

reciprocal /r??s?pr?kl/ ：相互的；回應(yīng)的

If people cannot form these intimate relationships, a sense of isolation may result; arousing feelings of darkness and angst.
如果人們不能形成這類親密關(guān)系，孤立感可能會由此產(chǎn)生，進(jìn)而引發(fā)陰暗和憂慮的情緒。

身處20多歲的人生階段，人生尚未定型，面臨眾多壓力和選擇，有迷茫感和焦慮感是十分正常的。而處于互聯(lián)網(wǎng)時(shí)代中，海量信息的涌入更是會放大這些感覺。

現(xiàn)實(shí)的壓力和困難要想辦法解決，而在思想上我們也要充分做好準(zhǔn)備，敢于承擔(dān)責(zé)任、積極建立親密關(guān)系，那些難熬的時(shí)光終會過去！

編輯：左卓
實(shí)習(xí)生：李修智